When was the last time you did something that you regret? Doesn’t have to be a very big thing. It could be a small thing like passing a comment of negative connotation or frustration to your coworker, friend or something similar that shows your negative energy? Have you found yourself saying/doing something you later wish you hadn’t said/done. Maybe, it’s a lack of patience, or maybe it’s a captivity of negativity. The irony is if you consider yourself as an optimistic person with positive energy, where does this negativity come from?
Many times, I have found negativity comes from interacting with people who don’t make you feel so great about yourself. Humans are very vulnerable and a certain small thing can change the feelings. Here’s a simple example.
Mr. A and Mr. B are two employees of the same company working for different managers. One day, both Mr. A and Mr. B arrive late at work because they both had worked late last night fixing a problem. Now, the manager of Mr. A thanks him for fixing the problem, explains how critical it was to the company and offers him to take a relaxed lunch for he might have been stressed out from last day’s work. The manager of Mr. B also explains him how critical the problem solving was to the company, but instead of thanking him, he shows dissatisfaction that he was late to work. When those two meet again for lunch, Mr. A comes high in energy, feeling great about himself and feeling accomplished whereas Mr. B comes low in energy, morally down and demotivated. At this time, it is more likely that Mr. A sees the company a great place to work for and himself as an achiever whereas Mr. B doesn’t feel great about himself and the company.
So, the moral of the story is, don’t let yourself feel down because someone who can’t appreciate you for what you are. Don’t let yourself lose positive energy because negativity surrounds you. If you constantly find yourself having negative energy, ask yourself what is not letting the positive energy grow. And if its people around you who bring more bad in you than good, it’s time to change: a time to change to get rid of negativity and boost the positive energy.